2020 Non-Resolutions

I hate the word resolution. I think it has such a daunting and final sound to it; that once X is obtained then my efforts are kaput.

But I want to continue the growth, continue the good, continue the feeling. I do not want it to expire or end. I think declaring these BIG things here will help keep me accountable and that’s an important part of a goal. Making it SMART; Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely.

So here I am, just a girl in front of you- my community (if there’s even any of you) asking you to hold me accountable. To ask, “How’s the ___ coming along?” To keep me on my toes with progress.
Here are the major topics that have been weighing in my mind the last few months:

• 20 weddings in 2020.
  It is a little smaller than other planners I know, but to keep it manageable until there are a few more processes in place, I think it’s totally realistic. (See, already utilizing SMART!)

• Making friends, REAL friends.
  In person, NOT just Instagram friends.
  I definitely asked a person I admire on social media out on a friend-date this month and I can honestly say that I am so excited to officially meet her and hear her story. Sure, I see what’s public knowledge, but I know she’s so much stronger than shown on the screen. Honestly, I’m kind of curious if someone looks at me the same way?! If so, please just reach out so we can be real life friends! We could ALL use a little in-person interaction.

• Putting myself out there in new ways.
  In December, I made an effort to show up to the things I rsvp’d to on Facebook events. I made it to 3/5 and I felt that was a total accomplishment. Not only did I surpass the FOMO of seeing a lot on social media after the fact, but I got to make real connections and network with masterminds in the industry! Just to hear that they started off the same way I am, and to see the wistful glint in their eye as they recalled their similar phase of life provided a heart-warming oomph that I am on the correct track. I am hoping to continue to show up when I rsvp and to keep networking and awkwardly introducing myself to everyone I can.

• Send more snail-mail.
  I LOVE getting mail. It’s such a treasured thing to think of someone taking a moment of their day to hand-write a note, find a stamp and a mailbox and send a little hug in a colored envelope… right?! Who wants to be pen pals?! I promise you won’t be disappointed. Cards will be cheesy and always signed with a heart. For real, send me your address.

• Read more books.
  This goal ends up on my list almost every year. I have a stack of 4 books next to my bed as I type this even. I am hoping joining a book club will knock out a few on to ‘hope to read list’. I also hope it opens new genres and authors up to me. I totally judge a book by its cover and the author’s background; maybe some good recommendations can help sway the needle to venture past the murder/suspense niche I’ve seem to have found and stay in.

• Keeping better wellness.
  Not just keeping active to hopefully combat some of the heavy hitting wedding hangovers, but a mental health as well. I used to beg Drew to let me plant things at our rental apartment and now that we own our home, I cannot wait to just ‘go play outside!’ I’m day-dreaming the garden and the deck plan. Where I will plant the peony bush to enjoy for years to come, how lush the grass better come in because I will not be wearing shoes in my own backyard. Doing some yoga there to clear my head and fill my heart. Com’ on summer!
  
• Lastly, Do more good.
  I am a firm believer in Karma and that the love one puts out into The Universe is returned to them. Clearing the rain gutter on the street corner when it’s clogged with leaves, moving the metal pole from the puddle in the neighbors driveway that I saw crappy kids toss into it, not getting angry at the person weaving in & out of traffic- maybe it’s an emergency, letting the woman with only milk jump in front of me at the grocery store. Any small task that can be done for the greater good, without hindering myself is the perfect opportunity to put good vibes out into the world.

I know most of these are small. They won’t impact the world, but they will impact my mindset and my mood. Each one will help make 2020 an ounce better and in total, will bring me joy… And really- isn’t that the actual GOAL of making a Goal list anyway?

Let me know your thoughts, leave a comment with some of your 2020 Goals!

Xoxo,
Kate